I can tell by your writing, that you, like me, long for a gentler and more just society.
As a Sociologist, my work involved Affirmative Action issues.
I also volunteered at a shelter for women and children, and I am aware that men are also victims of domestic abuse.
One thing we can all do to make society gentler, is to recognize, challenge, and eliminate the number of violent idioms used in the English language.
Better yet, we can strive to eliminate many idioms altogether, since they are confusing , especially to speakers of English as a Second Language, or English speakers in other countries.
What follows is a little story I made up. Can you see all the implied violence contained in the idioms commonly used in North American English ?
I had some time to kill yesterday before my appointment, so I stopped by at my friend Bill’s house.
He and I have always hit it off well together, and to be honest, I like him because he’s a straight shooter who never pulls any punches.
Bill showed me a picture of his new girlfriend, Eileen, and wow, she is drop dead gorgeous !!
I told Bill that I missed seeing him for such a long time, but I’d really been tied up at the office with so many projects. I get angry with my boss sometimes. I feel like yelling at him, but I bite my tongue. Bill understood. His life is also frantic. He told me about his long commute, and how he often gets hung up in traffic.
We had a great visit; it was really a blast.
We always enjoy shooting the breeze.
Then I looked at my watch and saw that it was getting late. I knew that I’d better hit the road. ( End of little story )
If you are listening to someone using violent idioms, I would encourage you to point out to them that this language can be considered offensive.
May we remind others of the power that their words hold.
May our gentle, clear, and uplifting speech be pleasing to the Lord.